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RaiderOctober 28, 2011

Raider may not have a PhD in love, but he’s an expert in life situations. He’s dealt with many experiences throughout his years and is ready to share his outlook on life. Bring on the questions, Raider is ready to help solve your problems.

Q. Raider, I have a girlfriend but all I do is think about my ex. We broke up six months ago and I’m not interested in getting back with her, but I can’t seem to get her off my mind. How do I erase her from my thoughts?


A. Mr. Joe,

That’s kind of a hard one. But I think you’re moving to fast with your relationship if you can’t stop thinking about your ex. How could you fall in love with the one you’re with if you can’t stop thinking about your ex? You can never erase your memory, but you can use those good thoughts you’re having on your new girlfriend. The way I got over my ex was I pictured another man doing the things we use to do and it really helped. No man wants to picture their girl legs in the air and you’re not in between them. You need to come up with you a plan before you hurt the one you’re with.

Q. This woman is a pain in my ass at work. All she does is brag about what she has and I’m sick of hearing it. How can I tell her in a polite way to shut the f%k up?


A. Ms. Lisa,

When a person brags about what they have they might not have sh*t. So when she go to running her mouth you might have to tell her to shut the f**k up. See when you be polite with a person like that they will think you are digging what they are saying. Speak your mind and mean it and that should take care of the problem. Might end your friendship, but oh well. I know you’ve lost better friends. Handle that boo.

Q. I’ve been friends with this woman for five years. In the last three months I have had a crush on her. I don’t want to ruin our friendship but I can’t change how I feel. What should I do?


A. Mr. Robert,

If y’all have been friends for that long it shouldn’t be hard to tell her how you feel. I think you have to be friends before lovers anyway. Now, if she’s not digging you in that type of way don’t get upset. Getting upset would only end a friendship that y’all have had for so long. Also you could hint to her that your feelings for her has changed. Do things that a boyfriend would do for his girlfriend and see how she reacts. If it doesn’t go well then you should continue just trying to be her friend. Be careful because good friends are hard to find these days. Good luck bro.

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