Need Advice, Ask Raider

Rucuss staffSeptember 16, 2011

Raider may not have a PhD in love, but he’s an expert in life situations. He’s dealt with many experiences throughout his years and is ready to share his outlook on life. Bring on the questions, Raider is ready to help solve your problems.


Q. My girlfriend always wears tight clothes. When we first met she was dressed in little shorts and a small tank top. I didn’t realize tight clothes consisted of her entire wardrobe. How can I get her to change-up her attire without sounding controlling?


A. Mr. David,

I think you have to be straight up with her. Let her know you understand when you got with her she was wearing little shorts and that was cool. But those clothes are not for every outing. If she believes in the relationship she will do what it takes to make things work. You also can take her shopping so she can see what kind of taste you have.


Q. My boyfriend is friends with one of his ex-girlfriends. They talk on the phone at least twice a week and go on lunch dates once a month. I trust him but am I a fool for doing so? Should I be worried about their relationship?


A. Ms. Patricia,

You are not a fool for trusting him. Trust is what makes a relationship work anyway. If they were kicking it like that before y’all got together, then I think you would be showing no trust if you ask him to stop seeing her. Now if this is something new then I can understand how you might feel about them seeing each other. The main thing is if you are worried about trust the relationship might be dead from the start. So trust in your heart he’s being faithful.

Q. My girlfriend had lap band surgery a few months ago. She loss a lot of weight and she looks great, but now I can’t keep her out the clubs. She leaves me at home and goes out with her girlfriends. Do you think this is a sign that she’s getting ready to leave me?


A. Mr. Jeff,

I think your girlfriend had a problem with self-esteem. Now that she sees herself as sexy you might have a problem there. So I think its best if you set her down and have a talk with her to see where the relationship is going. If not, you could find yourself with a broken heart. When a woman starts doing different things because of a new look they meet new friends. Prepare for the worst and pray for the best.


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